Longing for Loving

40 Pages Posted: 21 Feb 2008

Date Written: February 21, 2008


Post-Lawrence efforts to secure marriage equality for same sex couples must be undertaken, at a minimum, in a way that is compatible with efforts to dislodge marriage from its normatively superior status as compared with other forms of human attachment, commitment and desire. Resisting the normative and epistemic frame that values non-marital forms of life in direct proportion to their similarity to marriage, we must unseat marriage as the measure of all things. To this end, I'll suggest a thought experiment: substituting friendship for marriage at the center of the social field in which human connection takes place. No longer the sun around which all other relationships and relations orbit, our investments in marriage and marriage's investments in us are likely to yield in such a way that we can imagine making the argument for same sex couples' right to marry while imagining and cultivating different longings than that for Loving.

Suggested Citation

Franke, Katherine M., Longing for Loving (February 21, 2008). Columbia Public Law Research Paper No. 08-168, Available at SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=1096209 or http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.1096209

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