Never Being Able to Say You're Sorry: Barriers to Apology by Leaders in Group Conflicts

28 Pages Posted: 23 Jan 2009 Last revised: 22 Oct 2009

Roger L. Conner

Vanderbilt University - Law School

Patricia J. Jordan

affiliation not provided to SSRN

Date Written: December 31, 2008

Abstract

A timely apology can interrupt dangerous cycles of revenge-seeking and increase the level of trust between opposing groups, yet the effective use of apology by leaders in group conflicts is extremely rare. This article explores why this is so. It suggests that an effective apology requires a public speech act which manifests a sincere change of heart, and most leaders are prevented from recognizing the need for any such change by psychological processes that screen out needed information. Even if these processes are circumvented, psychological resistance to change, the operation of intra-group norms and competition serve to deter leaders from publicly acknowledging error.

The authors suggest three conditions that must be met before an apology is likely to be made and accepted in a group conflict: "Ripeness"- some degree of softening of negative attitudes and rhetoric on both sides of the conflict; a "Window of Opportunity" that permits the leader to limit the scope of the apology; and "Symbolic Communication," a culturally appropriate mix of words and ritual leading the offended group to experience the actions as the "reenactment of an archetypal narrative."

Keywords: apology, conflict, conflict resolution, group conflict, negotiation, violence, prevention

JEL Classification: D74, D78, Z13

Suggested Citation

Conner, Roger L. and Jordan, Patricia J., Never Being Able to Say You're Sorry: Barriers to Apology by Leaders in Group Conflicts (December 31, 2008). Law and Contemporary Problems, Vol. 72, No. 2, 2009. Available at SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=1322130

Roger L. Conner (Contact Author)

Vanderbilt University - Law School ( email )

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Patricia J. Jordan

affiliation not provided to SSRN ( email )

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