What Happened to Prince or Princess Charming? The Enigma of Partner Choice

11 Pages Posted: 21 Sep 2018

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Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries

INSEAD - Entrepreneurship and Family Enterprise

Date Written: September 21, 2018

Abstract

Choosing a partner is a critical decision. This article seeks to unravel the enigma: What makes partners click? What chemistry makes a partnership work? It examines the complaints made about partners and the reasons why partners make a commitment. Taking an evolutionary point of view, it considers the selection criteria applied to potential partners, the role of attachment behavior in the selection process, and how unconscious behavior patterns from childhood may contribute to dysfunctional partner selection. Finally, the question of what makes for a successful partnership is discussed as well as some simple rules to make it work.

Keywords: Partnership, Couples, Selection Criteria, Evolutionary Development, Attachment Behavior Patterns, Imprinting, Unconscious Behavior

Suggested Citation

Kets de Vries, Manfred F.R., What Happened to Prince or Princess Charming? The Enigma of Partner Choice (September 21, 2018). INSEAD Working Paper No. 2018/41/EFE. Available at SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=3252975 or http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3252975

Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries (Contact Author)

INSEAD - Entrepreneurship and Family Enterprise ( email )

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